I Did it!!

Wow, it has been 4 days since I gave birth to my  7th surrogate baby and 9th baby total out of 7 pregnancies!   I honestly never think about it much and it honestly does not seem real at times.  However, as I sit here recovering from this 2nd c-section, it hit me..boom…I did it!  And it is too emotional to rationalize or describe…oh the craziness and the joy from it!

I thought I was done after the last twins were born, but I am so thankful the parents asked me to help them again and that I did.  So thankful, for my daughter without hesitation told me ” I had to, I just had to, please, please mom carry for them!”   Gee, now I am crying as I remember and write this.   Oh and my husband, my best friend and biggest support, who prayed with me and debated with me (for about 5 months) and then said ” you need to carry for them, it is who you are, it makes you happy.”

So, I set off on yet another journey, and the best one yet…a sibling project!  I was excited, I was confident  but yet, I must admit I was also nervous.  I was not sure it would work, I was scared of a bad outcome, I was old, I had a c-section and I just did not want to have another one!    None of that matters, when God is leading and brings you to the end of the great plan.  This is the part in the story where you picture the most loving young couple holding a new baby boy and bring it home to show their twin boy and girl.  With pure delight and complete feeling, they now have everything they need.

Blessed Family and Surrogate!!

No words describe what it is like to be a surrogate and help bring a baby to amazing parents. And it is that much sweeter to have helped a family 2 times!  B and D are amazing parents and I know the twins are going to be such good siblings to the new baby boy.

The parents and new boy went home today, I miss them already.   I will be staying in the hospital until Saturday night or Sunday morning.  I have to wait for Dr. Lloyd to make that call.   I am feeling better today.  I have been able to get up and walk around.  My abdomen still feels like it was used as punching bag.

I forgot to share some pictures:

Here I am in labor, my face was so hot. Andrew got me a cold rag to cool me down

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The parents just getting to hospital and holding their boy for the first time:

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Baby and me:

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The parents, baby boy and me:

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Baby Time Part 2

My contractions were still all over the place with no good pattern until about 8:30pm.  Out of the blue they were coming every 5-4 min.   I sent a text to  B letting her know that it is go time forsure!  Andrew, Madison and I headed out to the hospital at 10:30pm.  Andrew put the hazard lights on and drove safe but fast to the hospital.  B and D left from Dallas around 11pm.

After we got into a room, the nurse check me to see how I was progressing.  She was struggling to get an estimate of  cervix dilation.  My bag of water was budging in two spots, so the nurse called in for a second opinion.  The nurses agreed I was 7-8 cm dilated.  They called Dr. Lloyd.  When he arrived, Dr. Lloyd checked me again I was now 9cm so he also broke my water.   Things were  moving along quickly.   Unfortunately, B and D would not make it in time Dallas.  As I thought about that, I said to Madison “you can facetime with B and D while I am in labor and it will be as if the are in the room .

Around 12:45am it was time to start pushing.   Andrew had one of my legs, the nurse had other leg and Madison was on iphone FaceTiming Live all the action.  I began to push and push, but I could not feel any progress being made.   I was frustrated as I thought I would give like 2-4 good pushes and the baby would come on out.  Instead, the baby boy was sunny side up and not able to get head past my pelvic bone.  The more times I pushed, the more pain I could feel in my lower abdomen .  I did not have this pain with other deliveries.  I could see this look on Dr. Lloyd’s face.  One of care and concern for me  and also one of frustration that baby was budging.   I told him I was having the abdomen pain and he said we will push a few more times if he head does not come we need to move to another plan.  I pushed had more pain and no baby head, so we went to next plan.

They rushed me to the OR room.   They gave me an epidural and Lloyd grabbed the forceps.  After getting the forceps in around the baby’s head it was time for me to push again.  With the epidural in place, I had no feeling in legs or abdomen and could not even tell if I was pushing .  I could see Dr.Lloyd tug with all his might, but this baby boy was not budging.  So, Lloyd quickly took out forceps and they prepared for a c-section.   At that point, Andrew joined me as they did the c-section.  I told him I was sorry to do this to him again and he laughed.  I told him I felt so whimpy this time and he said I was crazy. He said I am so tough and doing amazing.  The c-section went well, and baby boy was born at 2:29am on December 1,2016.  I was in a lot of pain as they packaged me backup.  I began to shake like crazy, uncontrollably. It was so annoying for me.

While in recovery, D and B arrived after saying hello and thanking me they went to see their new son.   Before I knew it, they came back with the baby and the best part of the day occured.  Finally, B and D got to hold their baby and it was just so beautiful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby Time???

I went to see Dr. Lloyd at 9:30am today.  I had made some progress, baby’s head was way down and I was now 2 cm dilated.   However, I was not in labor and you never know how long you can stay that way or even it all of a sudden you just jump into full labor.  I went back to work, with my mind racing wondering if this boy was going to come today or not.  Before, you know it around 12pm I stated to feel a more regular pattern of contraction.  I already added a contraction counter to my phone so I pulled it out and put it to use.  As I recorded the contractions, they were coming at an average of 8 minutes apart.  I continued to time them for 1.5 hours.   At that point, I had a strong feeling I needed to contact B so that they could get ready and head to Houston from Dallas.  I am not a worried type of person, so I was quite calm and unsure if this was actual full labor or it would fade out.  However, I want the parents here and I do not want to have a rushed situation like last delivery.  I did not even realize how far into labor I was and when I started to count contractions they were already 3 min apart and I was basically fully dilated as we headed to hospital.

I was getting excited for B and D, their baby might be here today for them to hold.  I was also so excited to see them, it has been several months.  After talking to B, she waited for D to get home and they headed my way.  I was going to wait for my husband to pick me up from school, but realized I could just drive home while he drove home from work and we could leave from the house.  We had to get my bag anyway.  We contacted and made arrangements we needed.  After we contacted our children, Madison said we had to pick her, she was coming with us.  Then, to our surprise Anthony texted back to say he was coming too!!   We picked them up from school on our way to the Hospital.

We got checked in and into a room.  The nurse informed me that they did not have all my surrogacy information such the pre-birth order and parent info on file.  I was surprised because the lawyer always sends the pre-birth order.  I did realize that we did not get the parent registration done as we normally do that when they come for an ultrasound.  This go round was difficult for them to come and that step got missed.   Luckily, the lawyer faxed over pre-birth order and turns out even e-mailed back in Aug.  B was able to get registration complete over the phone as they headed to Houston.  This was good news and I am thankful to have that part out of the way.  Without pre-birth order the parents cannot be with the baby after delivery and you have a longer paperwork process ect.  Without the hospital registration and plan of action for delivery and after, things will not happen we hope.  For example the parents cannot get wrist bands to see the baby, a room to stay in at the hospital and have baby in the room.  I sure did feel silly, for not remembering to get this part done, after all this is my 5th surrogacy.

After the nurse checked me, I was only 3cm.  The contractions had slowed down and were now 15-20 min apart.  She said they would monitor me for about 2 hours to see if I progress and Dr. Lloyd would be there soon to check on me also.  They stared and IV of fluids.  This would help to determine if I was dehydrated and thus in false labor.  Dr. Lloyd came in to check on me.  I was still only 3 cm and the contraction were still too far apart 20 min…for me to be in active labor.  This meant they had to discharge me from the hospital.  I can not be induced with medicine because I want to have a vaginal birth after having a c-section (VBAC).  Medicine would cause the uterus to overreact and stress it out which can be dangerous.  I did ask, if he could help by at least breaking water.  He said not with the contractions so far apart and no progress going on.

So, we left the hospital and stopped to get some dinner since it was rush hour traffic time.  I called B to let her know.  They were about halfway to Houston.  They decided to head back home just incase this all fades and does not turn into active labor.  I will just keep them fully updated and they will head back anytime needed 🙂   All part of quite the crazy adventure we have had together.

I started to walk when we got home, but still no good pattern of contractions.  The mystery continues, when will this boy arrive.

 

 

 

 

 

39 Weeks!

I did not realize it has been so many weeks since I updated the blog.   I am happy to report that surro sibling boy is still safe and happy at 39 weeks.  On Wednesday, after Dr. Lloyd checked, I was just 1 cm dilated and the baby was still high up.

I sit here in this last week, just praying that when the boy is ready to come, there will be enough time for B and D to get here!  There is nothing I want more then for the parents to be here for delivery .  To have the experience and hold their precious son immediately!  I am always sad thinking of how they missed it last time with the twins.

Yesterday, B reminded me of the very first interaction we ever had.  We actually met through this blog!!  She was looking into surrogacy and ran across my blog.  She left a comment and then we started to e-mail back and forth.  I was pregnant with my 3rd surrogacy at the time and could not help her myself, but I was able to match her with a surrogate friend.  Little did I know, sharing that journey with her would lead to 2 journeys of our own together.  I am blessed and Thankful of God’s plans.

I woke up this morning, with low back pain and some abdomen cramping.  This has had me on high alert…first signs of changing taking place, my body preparing and maybe signs of labor.  The first few hours 6-11am of the morning I was uncomfortable.  I was keeping track of contractions, but no pattern ever developed and they were very spread apart.  By 11:30am my back pain and cramping was practically gone also.  I sent B a text around 8am, to say “stay tuned”, some changes are happening.  Throughout the day, she checked on me and I updated her.  It is now 6:34pm, and all is still calm except the baby is still just a wiggling around in there 🙂

So, here we go…day to day of wondering and waiting.  I am anxious to see B and D hold their new boy, along with the twin meeting their brother.  I am also wanting to just stay pregnant as long as possible since it will be final time for me.  Speaking of that, here are some fun crazy belly pictures:

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30 Weeks!

Last Tuesday, Sept. 27th, I went in for a 30 week ultrasound to check growth and development of sibling baby boy.  B was planning to come down for the ultrasound and doctor appointment, but unfortunately she was not able to get a sitter for the twins.

I arrived at the hospital for the ultrasound early, so I decided to get me registration for labor and delivery out of the way.  After filling out at least 20 pages, I headed over to radiology.  As soon as the ultrasound tech started, we could see that the boy was in a bad position for getting good facial views and certainly no profile.  His head was down low and his back was going across the front of my belly, just making it so difficult to view certain parts.  He was moving all around, so we were hopeful that eventually we could get all the measurements and pictures we needed.  In the end after a long wait we got all measurements needed but he just would not help us get a good face and profile.

After the ultrasound, I headed over to Dr. Lloyds’ office for my appointment.  He reviewed the ultrasound results with me.  The baby is 3.5 pounds and is in 54% in growth and development.  There were no alarming results or concerns.  I took a picture of the result page for B and sent it her way.

Last 10 weeks here we go!   For fun check out the comparison of the current belly verses the the twin siblings 5 years ago at 30 weeks.  That was a big belly.

 

 

Halfway….20 Weeks!

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The midpoint big ultrasound time has come.  I asked B what day would be good for here to come down for the ultrasound, so we could get it scheduled.  He informed me that yesterday, July 13th the only day she could work it out.  When I called to schedule, radiology told me the first available was the following Tuesday, July 19th.  I was devastated and so disappointed.  B being so full of grace as always and joy, said we could just facetime.  In hopes that someone cancelled or an opening came up, I called radiology on Tuesday.   Sure enough they had a 9:30, 1:3o and 2:30.  I quickly contacted B.  She was excited and said lets do 9:30am.  I also scheduled the monthly appointment with Dr. Lloyd for 10:30am, so that she could come with me to that also 🙂

Yesterday, I picked up B from the airport at 8:45 and we dashed over to the hospital for the 9:30am ultrasound.  We got all registered and checked in….then the insane wait began.  We did not get called’ back until about 11am!!  I had to call Dr. Lloyd’s office to let them know I would not make it.  They informed me it was fine and that he might just walk on over to the ultrasound to check on me.  In the meantime, we also worried about B’s flight back out  to Dallas.  It was scheduled for 12:30pm.  Turns out that flight was cancelled due to low passenger load.  This actually was a good thing as we would never make it by 12:30pm.

The u/s tech started to check on the baby and take all the necessary measurements.  The boy was folded in half and doing a great job of hiding his face, seriously he was not cooperating.   While scanning he did eventually, move the legs around and sure enough he is still a BOY!   Another, tech came in and assisted in the ultrasound.  She had better luck and he finally gave a profile view of his face, but still hesitant to move his hands out of the way 🙂  In fact, he began to suck on his thumb and fingers.  He is growing strong and moving all over the place all the time.  The results came out fully normal and that is such a blessing!   In addition, Dr. Lloyd did stop by, which was so nice of him to take the time.  He chatted with us for a bit before rushing off to his other satellite office.

It was a fun day.  Although, we had a long wait, it was complete joy to chat with B and have that time.  I do wish D could have come as well, but B did get some video.  Onward we go and lets hope it continues to be a smooth ride for the remaining 20 weeks!

 

 

 

Progenity Test Results

On Friday, I planned to call Dr. Lloyd’s office to see if the Progenity test results were in.  As usual, my day got crazy busy and I did not have any down town and as things get added to my to do list, I start to forget what I already had planned!

As luck would have it, my phone rang in the afternoon and it was Dr. Lloyd’s office.  I answered thinking they were going to remind me of my appointment on Wednesday or inform me we needed to reschedule it.    I was wrong, the nurse told me she had the results of the Progenity test.  She told me that all genetic tests came out normal and then asked if I wanted to know the sex.   I said “of course!”.    Although, I was almost 100% certain that B&D want to know, I questioned it.  I called B, but she did not answer.

Later, during the day, I thought it sure would be fun to share the news in a fun video.   I wanted to paint my belly a specific color and take a new belly picture for B&D.  Madison thought that wasn’t good enough.  So we went over a few other ideas and I asked a fellow coach for some ideas.  She is pretty creative.   We came up with a plan.

B sent me a text Friday night to say that she would call me on Saturday.   I then told her that the doctor will probably give me the progenity test results on Wednesday at the doctor appointment.   Does the want to know the sex?   She said “yes!!”   Saturday before she could call me we created a video.   Unfortunately I can only add pictures to my blog or I would share video.  Originally, my husband and kids were going to spray me with Blue Silly String.  When we tested the string, it looked white not so much blue, so we got some blue face paint instead.  I had two shades of blue, Madison painted her hand bright blue and I painted Anthony’s hand royal blue.  Each one of them placed their hand on my belly.  During the video they held their hand there until I said, “B & D,  you are having a baby ….”. They lifted their hands and I said Boy!   Then my husband attacked me with the silly string and Madison smeared the paint all over my belly.  It was so much fun.   I immediately sent it to B.

She called me later just so excited.  She told me that she opened my text and noticed a video and had to stop it as quick as she could.  She ran to D, so they could watch it together.   I had to laugh when I got the results because out of the 9 babies I have carried only 2 girls were in the bunch!

 

 

 

10 Weeks!

On Thursday, I had my first appointment with my own OB, Dr. Lloyd.  I was curious on how he was going to react, when I show up with pregnancy number 7 and only 2 of those were my own babies!   He just laughed and said you are something else girl, and as always such a trooper!  I know I am blessed with him as my doctor and to have had him help with all my pregnancies.  It also helps that he understands the surrogacy aspect and how meaningful it is for both parties involved.  He is thoughtful when discussing things to help not just me but the intended parents too.

First, we had an ultrasound to check on the baby.  The baby sure did look so much bigger and so healthy, just perfect!   He left the screen on, without me even having to ask so that I could take a pictures for D&B after I got dressed. 20160505_105156[1]

I then asked, Dr. Lloyd about trying to have a vaginal birth since I had to have a c-section with last delivery.  At first he was hesitant and said that is not his preference with most patients.  He has done them but often is nervous.   There is a 1% chance of uterine rupture, however when they go into delivery knowing they are trying a v-back, they prepare for emergencies that can occur.  After, thinking about it and talking with me, he said yes, since you are always so healthy and active and have had 5 great easy vaginal births we can attempt v-back.  Of course it will also depend on how the rest of pregnancy goes and the position and size of the baby.

Next, he began to tell me about a new blood test and asked if the parents would like to have it done.  The blood test is called Verifi by Progenity .  This test has only been around for about 2 years, so I had never heard of it.  Dr. Lloyd always keeps things simple and does not often promote testing unless signs show a need, so when he said he recommends it and is so excited about the test.  I wanted to know more about it.  It is a simple blood test you take at 10 weeks or further along.  It can detect genetic disorders such as down syndrome or other chromosomal abnormalities.  In addition, it can tell you the sex of the baby, yes that early!  I called B, while at the doctor’s office to see if she would like me to do it.  She said yes and then said to tell Dr. Lloyd that the plan is for him to be in the delivery room this time!  Due to quick early labor last time, I had to stop at a hospital near my house and did not make it downtown for Lloyd to delivery the twins.   I headed down to the lab and gave about 9 vials of blood, some were for the Verifi test and others were for general pregnancy screening.  I also left the doctor’s office with a huge bag full of prenatal vitamin samples, good thing Dr. Lloyd loves me 🙂  20160506_071902[1]

 

8 Weeks and Graduating!

Went down to the clinic today.  I had an ultrasound to check to see if the bleed was shrinking and baby we doing well.  B could not line up a sitter for the twins, so I recorded the ultrasound for her .  Then, I gave her a call so she could be on  speaker with the doctor and myself.

Baby looks perfect growing right on target measuring 8 wks 1 day with heart rate of 168 bpm.  The bleed was all gone but a small speck.  Dr. Hickman said ” congratulations, you have now graduated! ”  By this he means, I am released from the clinic and will now see my own OB for the pregnancy.  I have an appointment set up with him in 2 weeks.  In addition, only 2 more weeks of shots!!

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