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I Did it!!

Wow, it has been 4 days since I gave birth to my  7th surrogate baby and 9th baby total out of 7 pregnancies!   I honestly never think about it much and it honestly does not seem real at times.  However, as I sit here recovering from this 2nd c-section, it hit me..boom…I did it!  And it is too emotional to rationalize or describe…oh the craziness and the joy from it!

I thought I was done after the last twins were born, but I am so thankful the parents asked me to help them again and that I did.  So thankful, for my daughter without hesitation told me ” I had to, I just had to, please, please mom carry for them!”   Gee, now I am crying as I remember and write this.   Oh and my husband, my best friend and biggest support, who prayed with me and debated with me (for about 5 months) and then said ” you need to carry for them, it is who you are, it makes you happy.”

So, I set off on yet another journey, and the best one yet…a sibling project!  I was excited, I was confident  but yet, I must admit I was also nervous.  I was not sure it would work, I was scared of a bad outcome, I was old, I had a c-section and I just did not want to have another one!    None of that matters, when God is leading and brings you to the end of the great plan.  This is the part in the story where you picture the most loving young couple holding a new baby boy and bring it home to show their twin boy and girl.  With pure delight and complete feeling, they now have everything they need.

Blessed Family and Surrogate!!

No words describe what it is like to be a surrogate and help bring a baby to amazing parents. And it is that much sweeter to have helped a family 2 times!  B and D are amazing parents and I know the twins are going to be such good siblings to the new baby boy.

The parents and new boy went home today, I miss them already.   I will be staying in the hospital until Saturday night or Sunday morning.  I have to wait for Dr. Lloyd to make that call.   I am feeling better today.  I have been able to get up and walk around.  My abdomen still feels like it was used as punching bag.

I forgot to share some pictures:

Here I am in labor, my face was so hot. Andrew got me a cold rag to cool me down


The parents just getting to hospital and holding their boy for the first time:


Baby and me:


The parents, baby boy and me:



Baby Time Part 2

My contractions were still all over the place with no good pattern until about 8:30pm.  Out of the blue they were coming every 5-4 min.   I sent a text to  B letting her know that it is go time forsure!  Andrew, Madison and I headed out to the hospital at 10:30pm.  Andrew put the hazard lights on and drove safe but fast to the hospital.  B and D left from Dallas around 11pm.

After we got into a room, the nurse check me to see how I was progressing.  She was struggling to get an estimate of  cervix dilation.  My bag of water was budging in two spots, so the nurse called in for a second opinion.  The nurses agreed I was 7-8 cm dilated.  They called Dr. Lloyd.  When he arrived, Dr. Lloyd checked me again I was now 9cm so he also broke my water.   Things were  moving along quickly.   Unfortunately, B and D would not make it in time Dallas.  As I thought about that, I said to Madison “you can facetime with B and D while I am in labor and it will be as if the are in the room .

Around 12:45am it was time to start pushing.   Andrew had one of my legs, the nurse had other leg and Madison was on iphone FaceTiming Live all the action.  I began to push and push, but I could not feel any progress being made.   I was frustrated as I thought I would give like 2-4 good pushes and the baby would come on out.  Instead, the baby boy was sunny side up and not able to get head past my pelvic bone.  The more times I pushed, the more pain I could feel in my lower abdomen .  I did not have this pain with other deliveries.  I could see this look on Dr. Lloyd’s face.  One of care and concern for me  and also one of frustration that baby was budging.   I told him I was having the abdomen pain and he said we will push a few more times if he head does not come we need to move to another plan.  I pushed had more pain and no baby head, so we went to next plan.

They rushed me to the OR room.   They gave me an epidural and Lloyd grabbed the forceps.  After getting the forceps in around the baby’s head it was time for me to push again.  With the epidural in place, I had no feeling in legs or abdomen and could not even tell if I was pushing .  I could see Dr.Lloyd tug with all his might, but this baby boy was not budging.  So, Lloyd quickly took out forceps and they prepared for a c-section.   At that point, Andrew joined me as they did the c-section.  I told him I was sorry to do this to him again and he laughed.  I told him I felt so whimpy this time and he said I was crazy. He said I am so tough and doing amazing.  The c-section went well, and baby boy was born at 2:29am on December 1,2016.  I was in a lot of pain as they packaged me backup.  I began to shake like crazy, uncontrollably. It was so annoying for me.

While in recovery, D and B arrived after saying hello and thanking me they went to see their new son.   Before I knew it, they came back with the baby and the best part of the day occured.  Finally, B and D got to hold their baby and it was just so beautiful.






































Baby Time???

I went to see Dr. Lloyd at 9:30am today.  I had made some progress, baby’s head was way down and I was now 2 cm dilated.   However, I was not in labor and you never know how long you can stay that way or even it all of a sudden you just jump into full labor.  I went back to work, with my mind racing wondering if this boy was going to come today or not.  Before, you know it around 12pm I stated to feel a more regular pattern of contraction.  I already added a contraction counter to my phone so I pulled it out and put it to use.  As I recorded the contractions, they were coming at an average of 8 minutes apart.  I continued to time them for 1.5 hours.   At that point, I had a strong feeling I needed to contact B so that they could get ready and head to Houston from Dallas.  I am not a worried type of person, so I was quite calm and unsure if this was actual full labor or it would fade out.  However, I want the parents here and I do not want to have a rushed situation like last delivery.  I did not even realize how far into labor I was and when I started to count contractions they were already 3 min apart and I was basically fully dilated as we headed to hospital.

I was getting excited for B and D, their baby might be here today for them to hold.  I was also so excited to see them, it has been several months.  After talking to B, she waited for D to get home and they headed my way.  I was going to wait for my husband to pick me up from school, but realized I could just drive home while he drove home from work and we could leave from the house.  We had to get my bag anyway.  We contacted and made arrangements we needed.  After we contacted our children, Madison said we had to pick her, she was coming with us.  Then, to our surprise Anthony texted back to say he was coming too!!   We picked them up from school on our way to the Hospital.

We got checked in and into a room.  The nurse informed me that they did not have all my surrogacy information such the pre-birth order and parent info on file.  I was surprised because the lawyer always sends the pre-birth order.  I did realize that we did not get the parent registration done as we normally do that when they come for an ultrasound.  This go round was difficult for them to come and that step got missed.   Luckily, the lawyer faxed over pre-birth order and turns out even e-mailed back in Aug.  B was able to get registration complete over the phone as they headed to Houston.  This was good news and I am thankful to have that part out of the way.  Without pre-birth order the parents cannot be with the baby after delivery and you have a longer paperwork process ect.  Without the hospital registration and plan of action for delivery and after, things will not happen we hope.  For example the parents cannot get wrist bands to see the baby, a room to stay in at the hospital and have baby in the room.  I sure did feel silly, for not remembering to get this part done, after all this is my 5th surrogacy.

After the nurse checked me, I was only 3cm.  The contractions had slowed down and were now 15-20 min apart.  She said they would monitor me for about 2 hours to see if I progress and Dr. Lloyd would be there soon to check on me also.  They stared and IV of fluids.  This would help to determine if I was dehydrated and thus in false labor.  Dr. Lloyd came in to check on me.  I was still only 3 cm and the contraction were still too far apart 20 min…for me to be in active labor.  This meant they had to discharge me from the hospital.  I can not be induced with medicine because I want to have a vaginal birth after having a c-section (VBAC).  Medicine would cause the uterus to overreact and stress it out which can be dangerous.  I did ask, if he could help by at least breaking water.  He said not with the contractions so far apart and no progress going on.

So, we left the hospital and stopped to get some dinner since it was rush hour traffic time.  I called B to let her know.  They were about halfway to Houston.  They decided to head back home just incase this all fades and does not turn into active labor.  I will just keep them fully updated and they will head back anytime needed 🙂   All part of quite the crazy adventure we have had together.

I started to walk when we got home, but still no good pattern of contractions.  The mystery continues, when will this boy arrive.